To
fall in love -- considered by some as the ultimate quest in life, and
prepared by others with a constant and unending flow of fantasies,
dreams, and enchanting ideas. And what we find sometimes to be so
uniquely freakish of a fetish of our own, so personally vaulted and
denied at every conscious inquiry -- we find, in fact, that it is a
secrecy of our own sexuality and our own fantasies, that disallows us
from discovering that, what we find to be deviant is actually
commonplace in the minds of all individuals. There is no person whose
sexual ideas are unique, no fantasy of anyone that is not based on the
same roots of the fantasies of others. This is sexuality, a social and
emotional facet of every human. So, it must be granted as truth, that
it is the repression of sexuality in our society, that convinces us
that our own sexuality is a freak, a deviancy, an intolerably
disgusting and improper attitude. Despite the fact that sexuality has
been an intrinsic part of the lives of the hundreds and hundreds of
millions of people, or the hundreds of billions of animals, there are
still some puritanical ideas of people to oppose it. And, even if
sexuality weren't commonplace, one would think that the argument of "so
long as none are harmed, let it be," would be enough to justify it. I
think that it was not a matter of argument, but one of shame and
repression, that granted the puritan-minded people to believe and
preach as they do.
If, in fact, those of the puritanical ideas had no
conception of sexuality, I do not believe they could have the will to
rally against sex. If it is just a fact of life, nothing that
personally effected them, then it would not be something they could
muster so much unforgiving hate for. Alas, I do not think these
puritanical ideas have done much of anything to uplift the personality
of goodness or the character of charity. The idea that sex is an evil
is not a friend of the ideals of kindness, intelligence, or truth.
These puritanical soldiers have done nothing but bog down the structure
of civilization, waging a war against our own animal nature. By seeing
their own feelings of sexuality, experiencing the desires and urges,
the thoughts and inhibitions, puritans find themselves villified with
their own character, ashamed and mortified. I think that people manage
to put anger, passion, and strong, powerful emotions into vengeance,
when it is their own personal nature that they are attacking. The
puritans have allowed themselves to be cruel, brutal, and absolutely
cold blooded in their war against sex. As the blood running through
civilization warmed, the extent to which they were allowed to fight has
been limited and limited. Tortures and murders were an intrinsic part
of the original Puritan culture, when it came to their attitude about
punishing sex.
It is a rather popular statement, that beaty is in
the eye of the beholder. Yet everyone seems to interpret this statement
differently. The fact that someone or something is beuatiful is only
true because there is a critic to call it that. No artwork exemplified
beauty without an onlooker, no song brought forward melody without a
listener, no poem created peacefulness or rage without a reader. There
can be no argument to this. We find, also, that just as beauty is in
the eye of the beholder, so is ugliness in the eye of the beholder. The
same artwork that was called beautiful by one may be called ugly,
disgusting, or otherwise unappealing by another. It is here that the
true meaning of the phrase may be captured. The only reason why
something is appealing or unappealing, attractive or unattractive, is
because there is a mind in the sensory organs there to judge. The ideas
of what is or is not gorgeous, enchanting, homely, or wretched are all
dependent upon the viewer. Then we apply these ideas to a person. One's
voice is seen as glorious in tone or rancid in quality. The face and
body become a considerable work of art or a defaced panting, or
something in between or to a more extreme. Judging a body and a face,
though, as beautiful or ugly, is a much different action than judging a
painting as either beautiful or ugly.
A person, unlike a painting or a poem, is
conscious, capable of emotion and happiness. All of a sudden, their
physical attributes become subject to criticism and judgment. What is
the purpose, though, of finding someone attractive or unattractive? The
simple and obvious answer is for thepurpose of mating and procreation.
Now that the reason for appeal or unappeal, in a person's beauty
anyway, has been uncovered, another question remains open. If a
person's outter shell can be judged as ugly or beautiful, by one person
or another, and since this judgment does not help us to determine their
character, should we disregard beauty and ugliness as a deterent to a
person's true self?
Of those individuals who call themselves
Freethinkers, artists, independent minds, lovers of intelligence and
friends of liberty, it is the typical attitude that a person's emotions
and way of thinking is in fact a part of their intrinsic self. There
can be no greater proof of this than experience: beautiful people may
be cruel and heartless, as the ugly people can be intelligent and
meaningful, and vice versa. A person's beauty does not determine the
way they think. It does not make them more kind or charitable, nor does
it instill in them attributes of vice or cruelty. This fact, I imagine
will meet with no argument from those whom have experienced the world.
The Freethinkers, though, have further advanced this position, by
incorporating this philosophy int their personal lives. They do not
judge people on their image, and accept friendship and affection from
someone regardless of theri looks, and they are not less scornful of a
brutal person no matter their beauty. They have taken a rational
position and they must be commended for that. In another way, some of
them have incorporated their philosophy into their sexuality, either
consciously or unconsciously. For example, they find someone attractive
based on their ideas, their character, their way of thinking and
personality. One's physical body becomes esxually arrousing once they
are identified with ideas of justice and goodness. They have not warded
off human sexuality, so they have much more mindfulness and personal
awareness than the puritans. In some cases, a Freethinker who fell in
love with someone for their ideas, after the berakup, individuals they
see resembling their initial love, even if socially considered
unattractive, are considered attractive by the Freethinker.
So it happens, that the phrase comes to us,
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," and we find that beautiful and
ugly are relative terms, subjective in that they are exsiting only in
the mind. Our natural response to this is that a person cannot wholly
be judged by their physical, since they are conscious. they are capable
of thoughts, ideas, emotions. Thus we find every Freethinker and
independent individual falling in love with a personality of a person,
irregardless of physical appeal.
There is one fact that must be treated, though. An
individual cannot have sex with a personality. As much as the idea is
desired, physical affection cannot be given to a thought, an idea, or a
character. It is necessary that a body is there. Admiration of an
individual and their thoughts is never so pure or heart-warming as when
there is a face for that individual, by which emotions and even ideas
can be expressed. The look of ease, of a person laying down at the end
of a long day, or a look of interest and intrigue, fascinated by the
current occurrences, or a look of boldness and strength, defending what
we believe in and what we fight for. The analytical expression,
unsatisfied with what we know, delving through thoughts, facts,
memories, to develope a more just theory -- the expression of deep
thought, it allows us a a greater admiration of the deep thought
itself. Nothing can greater express sadness than a story one wished to
levie by retelling, accompanied by tears.
This is just the face alone: eyes compliment diw
th brows, a mouth given a tongue, and a nose, the rest covered with
skin enveloping ten thousand muscle strands, all of which can combine
to tell us thoughts and emotions. Anger and aggression, sadness and
solemnness, pleasure and euphoria, exhaustion and rest -- all feelings
by which we can purely communicate to another by the contraction or
relaxation of our face muscles. The blessing of the voice adds to
whatever feeling we are comunicating, even if we are not speaking
actual words. In fact, the emotion or facial expression delivers is
dramatically heightened and empathically understood those vocal sounds
which transcend all human language, particularly when we express a
sudden pain, joy, or understanding.
Then, we are to consider the rest of the body.
There are few words so reassuring, as a gentle, affectionate, and
understanding touch. The idea of love can be written in a million poems
and a thousand essays, which help us understand it in a reflective
manner, but few things are so realistically understood as love when
through the physical act of it; it is so logical to believe that
experience is necessary to knowledge in this situation, just as it is
impossible to know the true nature of terror without going through war,
or other experiences. Lips, eyelashes, and other facial features,
gently caressing, touching, or nuzzling the intimate or even common
parts of the body: love-making, never so real or pure as can be
demonstrated through experience. Those gentle parts, the neck, the
stomach, the inner arms, find themselves also to be the most intimately
felt. Perhaps it is the nature of evolution: ourselves becoming most
protective of our most vulnerable parts, that they can also be the most
intimate parts, because we feel that we want our lovers to feel those
parts which we are most aware of. The other parts, the spinal column,
the inner fore arms, the hands, though we are not only protective of
them, we regard them during sex as gentle and intimate.
Understand, though, that up to this point, of the
necessity of a body for physical expression and physcial love, I have
said nothing of beauty, spoken no words on one's complection as it is
concerned to sex. I have only demonstrated the purity of expression
when physical, when either in body and through the face. Yet there may
be something rather unsettling, or otherwise seemingly contradictory
about these thoughts. Those who have based their opinion on Freethought
and independence, have argued that the physical complection, of
beautiful or ugly, is not accurately indicative of a person's inner
character. But, on the other hand, the body allows us the most pure and
affectionate method of expressing our desires.
I suppose that it must be admitted that one's body
and face is an important part of love and sexuality. Whether we find
one's body to be beautiful or not, the existence of such a body is
important. But, beauty can even play a positive role in this. A body
may in fact be considered indefferent, perhaps somewhat ugly or
holmely. But, once that body has a personality, an opinion, an ideal, a
character, these things alone may be enough for us to find them
attractive physically. The same can be said of a body we initially find
attractive, but then we hear a rather unintelligent, thoughtless mind
speak, a rather cocky personality, and an otherwise unattractive
character, and we find them ugly physically. It is not always the case,
but it happens to be true often. Thus, beauty, no matter what it comes
from, a physical complection, is necessary to a meaningful relationship.
Before ending this dissertation, there are still
some thoughts on beauty that will not rest in my heart until I have
fully explained them. As I stated before, there are many people who
would find it immature or thoughtless to love or deeply care about
someone just by their physical complection. But, it is almost a thing
of serenity, when a young boy's passions are enveloped around just the
image of a girl. Granted, he may not be thoughtful in his quest, but he
is listening to his desires. The thoughts and ideas that are spurning
in his mind may be misguided, but they are gorgeous, wonderful, and
even comforting. Fantasies may be pplayed out where just a kindly
personality is placed in the boy's fictionaly apparition of her. He
will feel joy when he imagines her impressed with every aspect of him,
and very loving and caring of him. The same can be said of a girl and
her affection for any handsome man.
With this, I end. I can only hope that I have
enlightened some minds.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Punkerslut (or Andy Carloff) has been writing essays and poetry on
social issues which have caught his attention for several years. His
website www.punkerslut.com
provides a complete list of all of these writings. His life experience
includes homelessness, squating in New Orleans and LA, dropping out of
high school, getting expelled from college for "subversive activities,"
and a myriad of other revolutionary actions.